Greetings again from the darkness. Coming of age stories are immensely popular in literature and cinema. And why not? We all go through the stages (some more effectively than others). Writer-director Lukas Dhont is no stranger to backlash and criticism after his 2018 feature film debut, GIRL, and the approach he took on transgender issues. This time the topic is different, yet his approach still opens him up to additional criticism. However, if the viewer isn’t on a quest for controversy, this story from Dhont and co-writer Angelo Tissens is quite touching.
Leo (Eden Dambine) and Remi (Gustav De Waele) are 13-year-old best friends. The thing we notice immediately is that their bond is unusually close, even for adolescent buddies. They each seem complete only when in the presence of the other. Remi is a very sensitive young man who excels at playing oboe on the school stage as he’s cheered on by Leo.
Of course we all know that 13-year-old classmates are not known for tact and diplomacy, and soon the biting comments find flesh (so to speak). Remi mostly pays no mind to the cracks, but Leo starts to question the friendship. He seeks out other connections, and even finds a way to appear more macho, despite his androgynous appearance and mannerisms.
Remarkably, both of these young men are first time actors. Mr. Dambine has an especially appealing screen presence. Also effective are Emilie Dequenne and Lea Drucker as the boys’ mothers, yet mostly the focus here is on the boys and how pure their emotions are until corrupted by others. Also at the forefront is a theme of learning to deal with loss and guilt, even at a young age. It can be easy to dismiss such films as manipulative, yet sometimes the writing and acting are such that the story strikes the right note. That’s what filmmaker Lukas Dhont has done here, and he’s rewarded Belgium with an Oscar nomination for Best Foreign Language film.
Opening in limited theaters on January 27, 2023
This movie was on my WWF list and it has nothing to do with wrestling; it’s ‘will watch film’, not the defunct (or soon to be) world wrestling federation. I’ve seen a few European coming of age movies and I do like the nuances from our side of the ocean, if not the contrasts. Your review has confirmed my reasons to watch it. That’s always a very good sign.